- When you feel you can totally be yourself: If there is one thing above all else that causes great mental health in an intimate relationship, it’s the idea of completely being yourself. To be allowed to be authentic without judgment or unfair expectations is singularly the strongest (and best) foundation for a healthy relationship.
- When he respects your boundaries: Equally important is the idea of respect for boundaries around money, time, resources, energy, and emotions. Having and holding our own space (and holding yourself independently accountable) in these areas keeps us growing alongside each other as we also grow as a couple.
- When he comes to the relationship to give: When you both understand what it means to enter a relationship as a contributor first and a receiver second, it creates an amazing ebb and flow of strengths, and gifts. When you feel weak, he appears strong. When he is out of ideas, you bring a solution – it’s a ying/yang thing!
- When your time together is effortless: One of the hallmarks of an amazing relationship is the timeless easy quality that results from two well matched people who understand and cherish the gift of each other’s company. Its that quality you see (and experience) from a couple that just puts you at ease; they are in harmony.
- When its easy to plan and dream together: A portion of your life should always be lived in the planning stage and when two people can dream in unison and walk in the same direction making changes, improvements, and compromises as they go, they find themselves achieving the vision and enjoying the journey.
- When he’s the first one you think to talk to: Everyone experiences highs and lows and, at times, life can seem like an unsolvable puzzle, a confusing maze. You know you’ve found the ‘one’ when he is the very first person you think about when wanting to seek input or express an idea; his opinion counts more than others.
- When you can visualize a true partnership: Have you ever met a couple that just seem to have it all? It seems they have an unspoken connection that drives and dictates the things they do, the places they live, the families they create. These couples can truly dream and vision in unison, then create and achieve their goals!
- When creating a life by design seems possible: Have you ever wondered how you could get from here to there? Couples that are a great match for each other understand the process of progress. They have a heightened sense of self- awareness and know how to quickly exchange a negative mood or emotion for a positive one.
- When you can’t imagine a life without him: Life is for the living and for the right now. Healthy partnerships have mastered the art of staying in the present, learning from the past and letting go of the parts that no longer serve them. They are so happily engaged in the present, they realize the blessing they’ve created together.
- When you are proud of them as a standalone human: Great partnerships recognize that the person they have partnered with is complete by themselves. They appreciate and recognize that the unique gifts and talents of each other is not necessarily connected to ‘them’ and they are completely confident in this understanding.